Fall Retreat 21 — Session 4 — Confidence in Conversations

Bible Passage:

Big Idea of Message:

Talking with others about God.

Why Not?

1) Afraid of looking dumb by not having the answers.

2) Not confident that you’re right.

 1   Set aside some of your baggage.

Your role vs the role of the Holy Spirit in conversations with others about God

It is God that saves, and if people come to faith, it is a miracle done by the Holy Spirit — not you.(Remember, you’re not God!)

Christianity is true and can stand on its own. Being unable to answer a question, or by asking a perfect question, will not poke a hole in the balloon and cause everything to fall apart. (Think about previous sessions on confidence in God and confidence in the Bible).

People do not come to faith because of you and your skill in conversation. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Saying “I don’t know” is helpful!

 2   Don’t be caught off guard.

1st Peter 3:14-17

But even if you should suffer for righteousness, you are blessed. Do not fear them, or be intimidated,, 15 but in your hearts regard Christ the Lord as holy, ready at any time to give a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you. 16 Yet do this with gentleness and reverence, keeping a clear conscience, so that when you are accused, those who disparage your good conduct in Christ will be put to shame. 17 For it is better to suffer for doing good, if that should be God’s will, than for doing evil.

Know what you believe and why you believe it. Know the basics to your faith. (3 circles)

When you live as separate from the world, people will notice and ask questions. Be ready to point back to God and give him the glory.

Remember that through the Bible, God is telling a story and that we are actors in the story. The story is about Him, not us. When people ask you about your God or your faith, they’re asking about the BIG story. Tell them about who God is and what he’s done.

 3   Remind yourself of what is true.

  1. You’re not dumb for believing in God, reading the Bible, or spending time in prayer. (Christianity is the most reasonable conclusion for why we are where we are).
  2. You don’t need to have all the answers.
  3. God gave you your identity before you did anything. Your value does not change based on what you say or do not say.

 4   Grow closer to God as you talk with others.

  1. When you talk with others with God, it forces you to think about why you believe what you believe, which brings you closer in your relationship with God.

 5   What if you need help? (Resources)


Parents. Pastor. Mentor. Friends.


Dare2Share.org (Also an App)




Case for Christ : A Journalist's Personal Investigation of the Evidence for Jesus

Case for Christ: A Journalist’s Personal Investigation of the Evidence for Jesus – Lee Strobel (BetterWorldBooks)

The Reason for God: Belief in an Age of Skepticism – Tim Keller (BetterWorldBooks)

God's Not Dead Adult Study Guide: What Do You Believe?: Broocks, Rice:  9781940203171: Amazon.com: Books

God’s Not Dead: What Do You Believe? – Darren Sutton (BetterWorldBooks)

On Guard : Defending Your Faith with Reason and Precision

On Guard : Defending Your Faith with Reason and Precision – William Lane Craig, Lee Strobel

When God Goes to Starbucks: A Guide to Everyday Apologetics: Copan, Paul:  9780801067433: Amazon.com: Books

When God Goes to Starbucks : A Guide to Everyday Apologetics – Paul Copan (BetterWorldBooks)


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3. The Freethinking Podcast

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